Touch

Signs your child is overstimulated by touch

Some people can be overstimulated by touch. They may avoid: 

  • certain fabrics, labels, clothing, seams in clothing
  • being touched
  • crowded places
  • standing in line
  • hair brushing, washing and cutting
  • nail clipping
  • messy or water play

Supporting a child who’s overstimulated by touch

You can support someone who gets overstimulated by touch by: 

  • warning them ahead of being touched, such as hair brushing 
  • doing calming movements such as stretching or chair push-ups ahead of something that involves touch
  • reducing other sensory demands during activities where they have to tolerate touch – such as a quiet corner to change for PE
  • respecting personal space and finding alternatives to physical support for activities where possible
  • adapting clothing, for example a black sweatshirt instead of a black woollen jumper for school, cutting out labels
  • using distraction when carrying out unavoidable touch such as nail clipping

Signs your child is under stimulated by touch  

Some people are under stimulated by touch. This might look like: 

  • seeking physical affection
  • touching surfaces or fabrics
  • getting joy from messy play
  • not recognising when their face is covered in food
  • wanting blankets and cuddly toys
  • not recognising pain when injured

Supporting someone under stimulated by touch 

You can support someone under stimulated by touch by: 

  • letting them know when there are appropriate opportunities to explore with touch
  • supporting them to understand social expectations about when touch is not appropriate
  • doing calming movements such as stretching or chair push-ups ahead of touch experiences 
  • offering them touch feedback through supports. This might be leaning against a cupboard or wall or access to fidget toys to help them focus
  • make sure they keep their touch support on them when travelling, such as a blanket
  • offering sensory supports such as fidget toys, weighted blankets, supportive seating